Every school’s got one. Mine was named “The richest woman at Pre-k”. I swear the first day she looked me over, up and down, assessed my net worth, found me wanting and with a toss of her very expensive looking cape, stalked away from me as fast as her leather clad feet could carry her. Did I mention she wore a cape? My vindication moment came years later when I saw her behind the counter of a kiosk at a big box store. It was a lovely moment. I still smile when I think of it. 😊
STOP! 1. an actual cape???? that is far worse than ribbons! 🤣 2. she ended up working at a big box store??? Did her partner get arrested for tax fraud or something? Vindication is YOURS!!!
I think the only reasonable strategy here is to lean in on weirdness. Like, get up in her face about it. Maybe print out some giant laminated recipe cards for salmon blini and bring them to her? Buy a dozen fake carnations and ask her if she wants to join you in hot gluing them to some headbands? Whip out your D&D board and ask her if she wants to play?
hahahhahahhahhahaha!!!! funny you say that because yesterday I decided to be very overt in my HELLO and SMILE and she totally ignored both! I started thinking maybe I had just misread the whole thing but nope. She looked me right in the face and looked away. No hello or smile back. She just does not like me! Maybe I have done something terrible to her and blocked it out?
Not gonna lie, this would keep me up at night! I would immediately need more info. Like I’d be doing a deep dive google/social media search to figure out this lady’s deal and what kind of trauma she must *obviously* have not to like me. Does your kid know her kid well? Could he be a possible source of deets? I mean not that it actually matters in any kind of way but this is the juiciest kind of mystery to solve!
Omg this happened to me kinda! My son is best friends with this girl and I ran into the mom and tried to make friends and she told me they were moving to Maine and basically she would never see me again… then 6 months later they bought a brownstone two streets up from ours. Just wild. Was she lying bc she hated me? Is she crazy? We will never know.
I love this so much. My children are still young but I'm already feeling very insecure about the mum situation, especially re birthdays where my kid doesn't get invited. It's always like... is it him? or is he not getting invited because I'm weird?
The people who are the most judgmental of moms are other moms. I never understood this. As a friend once said, We all have cracker crumbs in the back seat.
Also speaking of breakfasts you can make ahead... If you want something savory try as of strata. It's like savory French toast? Sounds bad but I swear it's good!
As an innocent bystander (male) who recently came across this entertaining Substack, I have to ask…why is it so important that someone likes you? There are billions of people in this world, including hundreds of millions in the U.S. Do you expect that every single person should and will like you? I know your column is a bit tongue in cheek, but there is always an underlying layer of truth. My experience: the less you care about people liking you the more free you will feel and be.
Hahaha that is the burning question, isn't it??? I don't know. There are certainly people who don't like me but they have a reason. I'm not everyone's cup of tea. I think I'm especially bothered when someone is just flat out unfriendly. Or just curious what is about me that she decided she didn't like. How do you know you don't like someone until you get to know them? Fortunately I don't have to encounter this often. Most people ARE friendly. But your advice is sound, Lefty! Thank you!
So FUN to laugh! And here I am being so serious…..Thank you…..Judi
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Thank YOU, Judi!
I literally laughed tears. The hear ye, hear ye… omg. 😆
Yeah, it was not my finest moment but the recipe is solid!
Every school’s got one. Mine was named “The richest woman at Pre-k”. I swear the first day she looked me over, up and down, assessed my net worth, found me wanting and with a toss of her very expensive looking cape, stalked away from me as fast as her leather clad feet could carry her. Did I mention she wore a cape? My vindication moment came years later when I saw her behind the counter of a kiosk at a big box store. It was a lovely moment. I still smile when I think of it. 😊
STOP! 1. an actual cape???? that is far worse than ribbons! 🤣 2. she ended up working at a big box store??? Did her partner get arrested for tax fraud or something? Vindication is YOURS!!!
Yes and yes, lol! I’m not sure how she got to where she ended up, but it was kind of a glorious turn of events! 🤣
Gonna make it on next family vacation. Kids are in other towns and states.
Will probably have a practice run.😋
Congratulations! A total win for you and well deserved and very funny
🏆 Thank you, Stephanie!
I think the only reasonable strategy here is to lean in on weirdness. Like, get up in her face about it. Maybe print out some giant laminated recipe cards for salmon blini and bring them to her? Buy a dozen fake carnations and ask her if she wants to join you in hot gluing them to some headbands? Whip out your D&D board and ask her if she wants to play?
hahahhahahhahhahaha!!!! funny you say that because yesterday I decided to be very overt in my HELLO and SMILE and she totally ignored both! I started thinking maybe I had just misread the whole thing but nope. She looked me right in the face and looked away. No hello or smile back. She just does not like me! Maybe I have done something terrible to her and blocked it out?
Not gonna lie, this would keep me up at night! I would immediately need more info. Like I’d be doing a deep dive google/social media search to figure out this lady’s deal and what kind of trauma she must *obviously* have not to like me. Does your kid know her kid well? Could he be a possible source of deets? I mean not that it actually matters in any kind of way but this is the juiciest kind of mystery to solve!
I lived every bit of this. I mean I LOVED every bit of this. Actually, I mean both!
HA! But I refuse to believe anyone didn't like you! NOT POSSIBLE! The world is broken!
Omg this happened to me kinda! My son is best friends with this girl and I ran into the mom and tried to make friends and she told me they were moving to Maine and basically she would never see me again… then 6 months later they bought a brownstone two streets up from ours. Just wild. Was she lying bc she hated me? Is she crazy? We will never know.
Love this 😂😂 I’d be your friend. I bet ribbon hair is not funny at all.
Thank you! We’d have so much fun at pick-up talking about breakfast casseroles and decidedly not putting ribbons in our hair!
We sure would! Hair ribbons (scoff). My hair is lucky to see a brush once a week 😂
I love this so much. My children are still young but I'm already feeling very insecure about the mum situation, especially re birthdays where my kid doesn't get invited. It's always like... is it him? or is he not getting invited because I'm weird?
Really entertaining, but I'm afraid I can't relate. If I actually notice someone doesn't like me, I assume the fault lies with them :)
I think that is an excellent perspective, Alison!
The people who are the most judgmental of moms are other moms. I never understood this. As a friend once said, We all have cracker crumbs in the back seat.
I even wrote a screenplay about this phenomenon.
Ooh I would have that on repeat!
Also speaking of breakfasts you can make ahead... If you want something savory try as of strata. It's like savory French toast? Sounds bad but I swear it's good!
I loved every word of this
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Absolutely LOVED this! You nailed the mean mom vibe! I’ve so been there many times!!!🙌❤️❤️
They are everywhere!!! I now know to stay away from grown women with ribbons in their ponytails. Dead giveaway.
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As an innocent bystander (male) who recently came across this entertaining Substack, I have to ask…why is it so important that someone likes you? There are billions of people in this world, including hundreds of millions in the U.S. Do you expect that every single person should and will like you? I know your column is a bit tongue in cheek, but there is always an underlying layer of truth. My experience: the less you care about people liking you the more free you will feel and be.
Sometimes not caring if others like you is the reason why people dislike you in the first place! It's an interesting quandary.
Hahaha that is the burning question, isn't it??? I don't know. There are certainly people who don't like me but they have a reason. I'm not everyone's cup of tea. I think I'm especially bothered when someone is just flat out unfriendly. Or just curious what is about me that she decided she didn't like. How do you know you don't like someone until you get to know them? Fortunately I don't have to encounter this often. Most people ARE friendly. But your advice is sound, Lefty! Thank you!