Great subject, and one we don't hear enough about.
"As much as I love inserting myself into conversations I should have no part of and proselytizing about topics I’m not qualified to speak on, this question had me stuck like the back of a middle-aged lady’s bare thighs to a plastic deck chair." HALL OF FAME SENTENCE!
Yeah, I think I was prepared for other things-- not so much this one! But I have definitely heard comments about bodies around these parts. I'm glad Kathryn stepped in when she did!
I’m so glad the boys and body image was brought up. My son is also on the smaller side and there is very little information on body image for boys and men. We need good nutritional and health education (and this can be easily done without offending various cultures) in addition to size acceptance.
I'm so glad you too can benefit from Kathryn's wisdom! It was a surprising topic for me as well. And you bring up a good point. Boys are super self-conscious about being "small" or "skinny" or "short."
Thank you, Shelly, for the opportunity to test my advice column skills. And most importantly for bringing up the tough questions about navigating parenthood with humor and compassion!
Thank YOU! This honestly was one I needed to turn over to someone who could properly handle and you did just that! It was advice for me tooooooooooo!!!!
First question, who are you discontented for, yourself or your friends?
You can build mass but it's a lifetime choice because if you stop once you start, you will be big and untoned.
If you're a little skinny but toned your later weight will dress out nicely.
Obsessing about zits leads to more zits. All that fatty oil from candy has to go somewhere.
If it's a critical concern, match your calorie intake to your calorie burn.
But know that you are in control
Also, stay away from smoking. It drys out your skin. Don't live your life for others, unless you plan to marry them.
Your attitude makes you beautiful inside and the right people recognize it. Who cares what shallow people think?
Be yourself and be your own.
Do this and you might survive.
And if you love someone, you care about their happiness over your own. You let them say no and walk away because it's what they want.
If what you want is more important than what they want, then you love yourself more than you love them. If so take a pass on marriage.
Selfish love grows apart. Selfless love survives. Materialism is selfish. Grace is selfless.
When your lightning strikes, all of this makes perfect sense. Until then it sounds stupid and impossible, but ask yourself this...
What if you settle out of fear and then your lightning comes?
If you settled, it's like a wrecking ball in a china shop.
DON'T CHEAT AND SETTLE.
Do this you might survive.
Same rules apply for your other. Maybe they're settling. Maybe they're selfish. Overlook these things and you'll eventually start over with less resources available.
Two selfless people make a happy life. Two selfish people make a lawyer's life happy.
Most folks never considered these things until after their second wreck...
like me.
19 years of self reflection and discovery, you pick upa few insights.
God's love and hugs,
Shall
PS Discard all of this if you want. I don't know everything.
Great subject, and one we don't hear enough about.
"As much as I love inserting myself into conversations I should have no part of and proselytizing about topics I’m not qualified to speak on, this question had me stuck like the back of a middle-aged lady’s bare thighs to a plastic deck chair." HALL OF FAME SENTENCE!
Awww thank you! The plastic marks burned onto the back of my thighs is totally worth it then!
It pops up so much earlier than I anticipated! Thanks for your words of wisdom AND the jokes ❤️
Here too! And I guess I'm naive but I didn't to hear so much body talk or comparisons of bodies from the boys. :(
My boys aren’t quite to that age yet but a good thing to know in advance that it’s a real issue for them too
Yeah, I think I was prepared for other things-- not so much this one! But I have definitely heard comments about bodies around these parts. I'm glad Kathryn stepped in when she did!
I’m so glad the boys and body image was brought up. My son is also on the smaller side and there is very little information on body image for boys and men. We need good nutritional and health education (and this can be easily done without offending various cultures) in addition to size acceptance.
I'm so glad you too can benefit from Kathryn's wisdom! It was a surprising topic for me as well. And you bring up a good point. Boys are super self-conscious about being "small" or "skinny" or "short."
Thank you, Shelly, for the opportunity to test my advice column skills. And most importantly for bringing up the tough questions about navigating parenthood with humor and compassion!
Thank YOU! This honestly was one I needed to turn over to someone who could properly handle and you did just that! It was advice for me tooooooooooo!!!!
The lone tree stands strongest.
First question, who are you discontented for, yourself or your friends?
You can build mass but it's a lifetime choice because if you stop once you start, you will be big and untoned.
If you're a little skinny but toned your later weight will dress out nicely.
Obsessing about zits leads to more zits. All that fatty oil from candy has to go somewhere.
If it's a critical concern, match your calorie intake to your calorie burn.
But know that you are in control
Also, stay away from smoking. It drys out your skin. Don't live your life for others, unless you plan to marry them.
Your attitude makes you beautiful inside and the right people recognize it. Who cares what shallow people think?
Be yourself and be your own.
Do this and you might survive.
And if you love someone, you care about their happiness over your own. You let them say no and walk away because it's what they want.
If what you want is more important than what they want, then you love yourself more than you love them. If so take a pass on marriage.
Selfish love grows apart. Selfless love survives. Materialism is selfish. Grace is selfless.
When your lightning strikes, all of this makes perfect sense. Until then it sounds stupid and impossible, but ask yourself this...
What if you settle out of fear and then your lightning comes?
If you settled, it's like a wrecking ball in a china shop.
DON'T CHEAT AND SETTLE.
Do this you might survive.
Same rules apply for your other. Maybe they're settling. Maybe they're selfish. Overlook these things and you'll eventually start over with less resources available.
Two selfless people make a happy life. Two selfish people make a lawyer's life happy.
Most folks never considered these things until after their second wreck...
like me.
19 years of self reflection and discovery, you pick upa few insights.
God's love and hugs,
Shall
PS Discard all of this if you want. I don't know everything.